Kim Oechsle, hypnotiseret.dk, is a danish psychotherapist and hypnotherapist located in Aarhus, Denmark.
I am working with private clients live and in video calls with issues like anxiety, stress, depression and lack of motivation or low self esteem, sleep problems - and a host of other related issues.
I am using a metacognitive therapy approach combined with mindfulness and hypnotherapy. Read more about the BSAFE method
Kim Oechsle, hypnotiseret.dk
The way I work
This page is a very short presentation of my work in english - a condensed version of my web page!
You can read about my background and the way I work with clients.
If you are interested in getting in touch either because you are a therapist yourself or you consider using my services, don't hesitate to contact me.Contact me on e-mail
Stress is not a disorder but a biological state that animals and humans can be in if our body is being stressed by some kind of pressure or threat - a stressor. Short term stress is natural and is just the body responding. Short term stress is not unhealthy. But long term stress is. This arises when the body is not regulated down again by releasing the excess “energy” in the nervous system.
Because we humans think (a lot!) we are capable of being in a stressful environment all day and night every day of the year if our thoughts circle around the problems, conflicts and other stressors.
The way out of stress is to learn how to down regulate your body and mind and avoid being stressed by your own thoughts.
Metacognitive Therapy, mindfulness and relaxation tools are a very effective combo to stress relief and stress prevention.
Anxiety and phobias
Anxiety comes in many flavours from mild nervousness, phobias to panic attacks.
Most people are familiar with being nervous about
I work with all sorts of anxiety. The basic mechanisms are the same - some things, animals or situations trigger the anxiety.
This can be spiders, snakes, birds or dogs. Fear of vomiting, getting sick or visiting hospitals. You can be anxious of needles, highways, bridges or fear of flying.
Social anxiety is especially disabilitating because being around people in certain settings like theatres, malls or even work and school can be hard or impossible.
BSAFE is short for Break down - Separate - Accept - Focus - Evaluate.
It is a method for changing anxiety by training your brain to a new response to the situations that trigger the anxiety.
It is designed to facilitate change by memory reconsolidation - where the anxiety is not only relieved through extinction proesses like in normal exposure techniques but actually changed or removed.
It is a combination of mindfulness and mental rehearsal in hypnosis. BSAFE offers a very quick relief. Sometimes one session is enough but two- to three sessions are the norm.
In metacognitive therapy, major depression is seen as caused by repeated negative thoughts about problems in life and/or problems with the self.
This is mostly caused by a specific thinking style that has been learned. Luckily and perhaps surprisingly, one can learn a new way of thinking! This is often a relatively quick way out of depression. MCT offers a new way of understanding and changing how you think - not what you think as well as tools and exercises that makes it possible to make the necessary changes in thinking style.
Low self esteem and lack of motivation
So many people suffer from a feeling of “low self esteem”. The tragic and funny story is that self esteem is not a real thing. It is a nominalisation - a way of thingifying a certain feeling.
The feeling is usually caused by thinking - especially thinking negative self-related thoughts again and again.
If this is true for you - just imagine how you would feel if those negative thoughts like “I am unlovable” or “I am not good enough” weren't there so much of the time.
By changing your relation to your thoughts your feeling of your self will quickly get back to a normal balance. Metacognitive therapy and ego-strengthening techniques are the tools I use for working with low self-esteem.
Sleep disorders often go hand and hand with minor or severe stress and depression and I am often using MCT for sleep problems as well.
Metacognitive Therapy (MCT) is a way of working with thoughts processes on a “meta” level that has proven to be very effective for stress, anxiety and depression.
In contrast to Cognitive Behavioural Therapy you don't change what you think but how you think.
MCT targets directly the human tendency to overthink. Our brains love analysing the past for mistakes and worrying about the future.
It is so hard for the brain to be in the present. The now.
MCT is inspired by the same principles as mindfulness but is more straight forward and doesn't require meditation to get results.
Hypnosis and hypnotherapy
Forget about hypnosis as a special trance state where you are sleeping or in some mysterious contact with a subconscious mind!
This is a misunderstanding stemming from movies and stage hypnosis. There is nothing wrong with that - just rememember it is entertainment and fiction. You don't believe in super heroes or real magic just because you saw that in movies and shows, do you?
But hypnosis is still a fantastic tool and we all have the ability to use it. In fact we do it constantly without calling it hypnoses.
In hypnosis you create reality out of your thoughts and imagination. You create feelings. This is what you see in a hypnosis show, right? People forgetting their own name, getting drunk in water, going limb when someone yells “Sleep!". It looks amazing and the hypnotic phenonema are all real.
It is possible to engage so much in your own thoughts and imagination that you forget about reality for a short or long period.
The negative side of creating reality out of your thoughts is when thinking makes you depressed, anxious or stressed. People do that without using the “hypnosis” term.
So the way I use hypnosis is to show my clients how they can engage in thoughts to create positive emotions like love and happiness and the choice of not engaging in negative thoughts.
Mindfulness is sort of the exact opposite of hypnosis. Where hypnosis is concentrating your thoughts with some intention or direction, mindfulness is mostly about noticing thoughts without reacting or engaging in them.
I am trained as a Unified Mindfulness coach and teach mindfulness classes as well as use mindfulness with my clients. It goes nicely hand in hand with metacognitive therapy and hypnotherapy
I am currently a metacognitive therapist, hypnotherapist and mindfulness coach.
Previously, I worked 25+ years in the it industry as a team manager, project manager, programmer and I have a Msc degree in computer science from Aarhus University, Denmark. I like to think that I am still using my well-trained analytic skills with my clients.
I am constantly updating my knowledge with new courses and but so far the most important of my courses and trainings are
- metacognitive therapist from Neokognitivt institut, Denmark - Linda Burlan Sørensen.
- Certified NGH Hypnotherapist - Anders Mortensen
- Coaching the Unconscious Mind and Integrative hypnosis courses - Melissa Tiers
- The Psychological Illusion Model - Jørgen Rasmussen
- Uncommon Knowledge - Mark Tyrell
- Unified Mindfulness coach.
- Open Focus certified coach - Les Fehmi and Susan Shor Fehmi
I am also studying and getting inspired by
- Milton Ericsson, Richard Nongard
- NLP - Richard Bandler, John Grinder
- Focusing - Eugene Gendlin
- Kiloby inquries - Scott Kiloby
- Trauma therapists from the “Polyvagal” world based on Stephen Porges’ polyvagal theory: Peter Levine, Pat Ogden, David Berceli (TRE), …
- Therapeutic Memory Reconsolidation Process - Bruce Ecker
- 90 min therapy session €225 or $235
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